Though while getting married young isn't
for everyone, there are actually some distinct benefit of doing so, let's talk
about what they are. Before that, however, let first look into the big knock
against early marriage.
Does Early Marriage Increase Your
Chances to Divorce?
Our modern anxiety about getting married
and the idea that it is wise to delay ones nuptials didn't just appear out of
the either. Research shows that couples who get married before age 25 are twice
as likely to get divorced. Could this be true?
There are several factors at the root of
the statistics. For starters, some ladies who get married before age 25 maybe
doing so with less forethought and intention. Keep in mind that “before age
25" encompasses not just people in their early 20s, but everyone on down
to teenagers, who may be getting married impulsive or because an unexpected
baby came along. In fact, once you hit age 25, divorce rates go down by almost
50%.
Economic Is Another Big Factor?
Young people who are just starting out
in life are usually battling financial problems that can put a lot of stress on
a marriage.
Finally, a young couple may have children
soon after getting married, and babies are acute stressors as well as money
exhauster.
In short it is true that those who marry
young has a light chance to divorce, and its likely due to the pressure of
immaturity, strained finances, and the responsibility of child rearing .
Yet I don't see any of these factors as
stones, nor impossible to overcome. You can get married young and with right
intention; the financial problems can be handled maturely. You don't have to
get kids right immediately. So to say, taking the decision to marry early come
with bunch of unique benefits.
The
Benefits of Marrying Early
When it comes to having a happy
marriage, with my research I found out that getting hitched between the ages of
22 and 25 seems to be the sweet spot. That just an average, of course, but the
benefits outlined below mostly focus on "young" as being ones early
to mid- twenties.
1.
You (and Those You Date) Will Be
Carrying Less Baggage
I was opportune
to speak with a neighbour in her 30s who has complained about dating ladies her
age, she said, "when you look at it, if a person is reasonably normal, they've
probably had one semi serious relationship each year, or every year since
they've been teenagers. When you get to your thirties, your carrying more than
a decade’s worth of break-ups, lingering feelings for past partners ,trust
issues, and disappointments with you. Everyone you date has got a bunch of
baggage.
But when you
marry young, you and your partner has less exes, old flames, comparisons and
minimal jealousy of each other past relationship to deal with. You can start
life together with more of the freshness that leads to lasting romance. You're
more likely to marry someone with whom you're likely compatible.
2.
Lots of ladies put off marriage
so they can shot around longer, thinking that the more they look, the better
chance they'll have in finding someone who's just the right match for them. So
I'll say, the longer you wait to get married the more ideal potential partners
get taken off the market. According to Dr. Meg Jay, "Even though searching
may help you find a better partner, the pool of available single shallows over
time, perhaps in more way than other".
3.
You'll Have More
Sex (Even Years After You Marry)
Staying single
may seems like a good way to keep the sexually good times rolling. Yet
surprisingly, married ladies have more and better sex (love making) than their
single peers. You want me to tell you why?
Going to get a guy to give it to you takes time, effort and cost you
more at the end. Instead of having to troll night clubs or lucking put that guy
you're interested in will also swipe right, Married ladies got the Mr to go
home to.
If you want to
enjoy a robust married sex life in your 30s & 40s, research also suggest
that couples who tied the knot in their mid twenties have more sex than couples
who got hitched later on. You want me to tell you why? Due to research, may.
It’s because you have more energy for sex in your 20s and whatever start out
hot and heavy, echoes on that way through the decades.
4.
You Grow
Together
Its often been
noted that its more difficult to join two lives together when each party has
been living independently for a long time, than when couple start out life
together earlier on. According to Dr Meg jay, “We become what we hear and see
and do everyday. We don't become what we don't hear, see and do everyday.
You'll have an
easier time navigating your 20s and can be more successful in reaching your
professional and academic goals. Your 20s can be a difficult time; you're
balancing school & work, trying to get your finance in shape, working to
get a handle on your new adult responsibilities. Having a spouse by your side
during this time can make your 20s easier and more successful.
Firstly, a
spouse can be a vital support as you finish your schooling and embark on a
career. Marriage helps you reach your career and academic goals by providing
stability and focus. Socializing and dating requires a lot of time &
emotional breakdown. When you've found your partner you'll be able to direct
your energy and time towards your other life goals. You'll have an easier time
having kids, increase their chances of being healthy, and be able to keep up
with them.
5.
You'll have an easier time having
kids, increase their chances of being healthy, and be able to keep up with
them.
While modern
advances have allowed ladies postpone having children, the reality is that both
men and women have a biological choice & having kids get harder and riskier
the longer you wait.
Besides, it'll be
easier to conceive when you marry younger, not being exposed to lots of premarital
sex, abortions and the likes. It also just plain easier to raise your kids.
Consequently you
will be glad starting having kids in your 20s when you had a little more energy
to spare. You'll also be glad you won’t be in your 70s when you have grand
kids.
Don't get me wrong Sister
I know plenty of older ladies who do
great as old mums. They're in shape and full of Vigour. And can keep up with
their kids & career. But even with that they've said to me privately that
they wish they were 30 starting a family rather than 40.
You don't have to cram marriage, career
and kids into a few short years. Many put off marriage and children, to focus
on their education or career, only to have all of those responsibilities
simultaneously & stressfully collide in their 30s. If you married in your
30s and you want to have kids, you'll have less flexibility as to have them (I
mean how you'll like to space them). At the same time you're settling into a
married life and adjusting to being a dad, your career is likely to take off
too unsurprisingly, my research shows that those who delay marriage and
children end up being saddled with greater stress. Pursuing marriage, children,
and career in successive ways allows you to enjoy each season to the fullest.
Conclusion: Am I Saying Everyone
Should Get Married Young?
Marrying age is one of those topics that
get people all riled, perhaps because choice itself has become our modern
modality. So, let me be much clear. While marrying young can impact all the
benefits outline above, am not arguing with anyone that getting married younger
is always better than getting married when you're old. Nor am I saying that if
you're young and single you need to rush out and receive a ring from any kind
of guy.
Like most things in life, there are pros
and cons to each approach, and life circumstances are going to affect which
path someone takes. The most important factor in a happy marriage is not age,
but choosing the right person. Sometimes, that happened earlier on in your life
and sometimes it takes longer.
Rather than proving superiority of
marrying young, my goal with this article is to simply provide some reassurance
to the ground female out there who are in there early to mid- twenties, have
already met the right person and feel like they are ready to get the ball
rolling, but are scared to pull the trigger because they've heard of the
constant drumbeat of "marrying young and you'll regret it". In other
words, once you've found the guy you can't live without, you should actually feel
confident do discuss with him and decide to take on the rest of your lives side
by side, on embarking with him on life's greatest adventure.
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